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Need to make this tough decision… all choices really suck. Help?!?
Today I have to make a decision. I stay and live with my bf, live with my dad, or live with my mom.
.:BF:. Hits me. Makes me feel unattractive and bad about myself. (((I have his 11 month old son))). Never really likes to spend time with me. Doesn’t work. Waste money (((my money)) on mainly crap. When I try to help him he acts… fussy. Been with him for 3 years. Acts really childish and moody.
.:Dad:. Met him 3 years ago. Walks in and out of my life since then. Harasses me about living with him. Is supposly christian and saved. Is attracted to me… gross. Would provide for me. Would have to do whatever he says. Doors have no locks. No TV, Internet, my money goes to him, no radio, or music.
.:Mom:. we’ll be crowded. Is and addict to drugs and drinking. Has been in and out of my life since I was born. Can not keep a job. Will ask me for too much money. Brothers are annoying. Would probably leave and not come back for months meaning bills not paid, homeless me again.
I used to live with my grandma but she died a few years ago so I was left in this fucked up point in my life. I’m almost 18 so everything would be temporary for about 7-9 months.
I got my GED and work so I make about $500 a weeks…
Wow! Your life is no bed of roses. The worst choice would be the BF who is abusive and will be a terrible role model for your child. The abuse will only get worse.
I would start here: Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for help or visit www.ndvh.org. They will help you.
Or call Soc. Services and see if you can get section 8 housing or go to a shelter. They will train you for a job and they have counselors who can help you.
If that doesn’t work, go to your Dad’s. Put a lock on your door yourself. Warn him that you will report him if he makes a move on you.
What a sad sad situation.
14 Responses to “Need to make this tough decision… all choices really suck. Help?!?”
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November 14th, 2009
Posted by admin in christian internet radio | 14 Comments »
Wow Im sorry, those are all horrible choices. I would suggest going to a shelter or a church.
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With those options sounds like you should check into a homeless shelter or foster care, something.
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wow, I am so sorry to hear of your situation. Do you have any close friends you can stay with, or check with a local church. They may be able to set you up with someone who is looking for a tenant. If you have a child all these "choices" may affect his/her well being. Good luck and don’t give up and just settle.
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sorry about your story…it`s hard decision.
you are not even 18, has a baby.try to get some social work help, maybe you will find a decent place where you could be happy and raise your baby safely.
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wow toughy! you don’t know any other place to go? whatever you do, don’t go to bf’s. he’ll just hurt you even more. dad sounds nasty, even though he "says" he’s a christian. and mom sounds like a bad person to have your son aound. i’m praying you make the right desicion, stay with a friend.
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Wow! Your life is no bed of roses. The worst choice would be the BF who is abusive and will be a terrible role model for your child. The abuse will only get worse.
I would start here: Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for help or visit http://www.ndvh.org. They will help you.
Or call Soc. Services and see if you can get section 8 housing or go to a shelter. They will train you for a job and they have counselors who can help you.
If that doesn’t work, go to your Dad’s. Put a lock on your door yourself. Warn him that you will report him if he makes a move on you.
What a sad sad situation.
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dump your boyfriend. seriously. what bennefit is he giving you?
and live with your dad, atleast he will provide for you until you get a job and stuff.
open up a bank accuont and put your own money in it.
then install locks on the door.
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awww. u poor thing. i would suggest getting away from all of that crap . u and ur son don’t need any of it. go to a shelter or something.
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what i would suggest is save your money, as much as you can, but keep feeding your bf a bit cuz he’s gonna wonder what’s up. then i would move someplace new away that he couldn’t find you cuz he is bad news, the father and mother is bad news also. right now you need to take care of you. there are plenty of better people out there to spend a better life with. don’t waste your life cuz you will probly end up like them. find a better environment and watch your back.
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put a restraing order on ur bf…dont trust ur father,might have to have him arrested,if u moved in…put ur mother in a drug rehab. assuming the money ur talking about is ss money or what ? use it to live on until 18, which means u have 7 to 9 months to get ur life in complete order, which means impossible!!!!but by solving ur first 3 problems(not choices) will be a good start in the right direction….sorry ur having such a bad start to what can be a good life. good luck….
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Can you not get somewhere else or share with a friend..?
Seriously none of these options sound good for you and your baby..
Try find annother option..
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dump your boyfriend, tell your mom and dad to **** off, and move out of the state. go to a women’s shelter, and take your baby. they will take good care of you. be careful with your bf and make sure he CANNOT find you.
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WOW, you definately have alot on your plate right now. Here’s the thing, you’re almost 18 anyway, just get away from everyone. Live on your very own. Drop the deadbeat boyfriend, stay in touch with your dad on your terms not his, you never had a positive role model in your life, this is why you have a crappy boyfriend, and as for your Mother, well it’s too bad, but you know she will just drag you down as well. Live on your own and live a great life. Raise your son on your own, and teach him the good things in life. Your family is a negative message toward you and your son. Take the weight off your shoulder’s and you’ll see that life can be enjoyed. Do you have any aunts & uncles that you can go to and talk to? Just remember that your son comes first and it’s your responsiblity to keep him out of danger and negative surroundings. You can do this you know. You are strong, you’ve made it this far and you can go further. Good luck.
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Are you serious!? That’s horrible! Im sorry! Looking at it from an outside point of view, and if you possibly cant stay at a shelter or church which you should really consider..Where have you been living all this time anyway?
You have a job, you need to support your kid and yourself, but i guess you dont make too much money.
BF: you need to save money, and he wastes it on crap. YOUR money which YOU need to improve this situation. He hits you.. thats unnacceptable! You actually need to stop seeing him! he may be the father of your child, but that doesn’t mean you have to be with him and he’s only bringing YOU down with him!.
Dad: He’s not a great choice either.. at all. If you see him as basically a stranger.. and he’s attracted to you!? You can get locks on those doors, but even then you arent safe..BUT he will provide for you and your kid. Actually consider this if you really need the money.
Mom: If your mom is what you say she is, then she’ll drag you into her debt. If she leaves, you are responsible for the house and the kids. She asks you for too much money, and again, you can’t be having these responsibilities on your shoulders.
Sadly, money is vital in this, because you need to think long term in 7-9 months when you can move out and pay your own bills.! You need to be fully prepared.. Think long term instead of how uncomfortable or anything it might be for now.. the best possible choice is actually your dad, but im pretty scared about that. With your BF you actually know what to expect.. from your dad you dont know what could happen!
I think you should find a way to ensure he dsnt hit you again [boyfriend] Just let him be..bid your time. He dsnt stay around thats actually good bcuz you dont have to put up with him, you dont HAVE to give him money [i think] and you can prepare mentally for these 7 months ahead of you and all the negative comments he might say..
But really try to find something else like a church or something! friends! other family idk.look for a home to be a roomate or something
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